Therapy Homework: Affirmations for Self-Esteem


I saw my therapist this past weekend and it went ok, but I honestly think sometimes my therapist gets kind of annoyed or frustrated with me. I feel like she sometimes wants to see more progress than I’ve made, especially in the self-esteem/self-loathing area. To be fair, I haven’t always been the best about following up on actual practices to feel better about myself. I have done affirmations and things like that in the past, but I always end up kind of feeling ridiculous and giving up pretty soon when I don’t see immediate results…even though I know that immediate results aren’t likely.

At the end of the session, the therapist gave me the homework assignment of looking up some affirmations that I genuinely liked and related to and giving at least a few of those a try every day, so here goes. I did a google search and found some affirmations I actually kind of related to on a Huffpost article. Here are the ones I’ve actually decided to work with:

  1. I am courageous and I stand up for myself.
  2. I possess the qualities needed to be extremely successful.
  3. I forgive those who have harmed me in my past and peacefully detach from them.
  4. My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil.
  5. Many people look up to me and recognize my worth; I am admired.
  6. I am a powerhouse; I am indestructible.
  7. I am conquering my illness; I am defeating it steadily each day.

Most of these spoke to me because they were just simple and straightforward, or because they address issues I deal with constantly (like health issues or past trauma). #5 may seem a bit conceited at first glance, but I think it is important for those of us who feel really bad about ourselves to realize that others don’t share that negative view. If any of these affirmations speak to you like they did to me, feel free to use them for yourself!

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Hi! I am an artist, author, and blogger who also happens to have Asperger’s Syndrome. I have won several awards and honors for my writings and artwork. I suffer from a few severe mental illness and chronic pain conditions (Depression, Anxiety, PTSD, Fibromyalgia, CFS/ME, Ehlers Danlos, Degenerative Disc Disease, etc.), which greatly affects my life and makes me want to advocate for others going through similar things. Other interests of mine include reading, writing, drawing, watching cartoons and movies, collecting toys, hanging out with my family, and annoying my 3 cats.

15 thoughts on “Therapy Homework: Affirmations for Self-Esteem”

  1. I have to have a therapist who understands that I will always have low self-esteem. I wasn’t given it when I was a child and my brain was developing. It will always be a challenge to build on fragile ground. That’s why I need a therapist to help me when I get overwhelmed. Affirmations are a great tool but I will never feel confident. When I have to find a new therapist or counselor, I always discuss this first. I won’t work with someone who doesn’t understand that it is a life time struggle for me. It doesn’t mean I can’t be creative and live a full rich life. It means I need help holding onto my perception of myself and recognizing my successes. When I dismantle my life, she listens and then gently helps me put it back together. ☺ My favorite affirmation is “Don’t feel bad about feeling bad.” Helps me move forward. Good luck to you.

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    1. My therapist does understand how badly I was damaged as a child and that I may never be wholly healed. I think what really gets to her is my inability or maybe even unwillingness sometimes to say anything positive or kind about myself without discounting it. I think she would be happy if I lost the word “but” from my vocabulary lol.


  2. I agree with Walt’s great comment!
    hmmh. Maranda – that quitting too soon, yep I know that one…. I don’t know that this will work, but here goes! I was going to give up on art. As others were doing so much better. then, I had an idea…. jotted down #1-40 on a notepad and each day made an art attempt, just – to check off the next number.
    by the time I got to #20 I saw evidence of progress.
    SMALL. But, it was there. it was, just enough…. to keep me going. I now use this approach with lots of stuff! I know. what works for one, may not for another. but hey? #1-40 can’t hurt!!!

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