My Poor Husband…


Sometimes I feel truly sorry for my husband. From what I have read and been told by psychologists and psychiatrists, he has a rough road to travel. Asperger’s can be extremely hard on intimate relationships. Bipolar can be extremely hard on intimate relationships. Long-term chronic pain and chronic illness can be extremely hard on intimate relationships. PTSD can be extremely hard on intimate relationships. And my poor husband has to deal with them all on a daily basis…

Of course, when we married fifteen years ago, I didn’t know I had any of these conditions or that I would develop some of the others. I did already have chronic foot pain and issues with depression and anxiety, but nowhere near as bad as I have them now. Nor did I have a true understanding of what was causing the symptoms I sometimes experienced, whether they be mental or physical. I wish I could have warned him, but I simply didn’t know myself.

On the positive side, he has definitely been a trooper. He always steps up to the plate and is there for me and willing to do anything he needs to do to take care of me and help me through the confusing mess that is my mind and my body. If anyone in this world has shown me the meaning of true love, it is him. And I am thankful.

*By the way, for great advice about marriage counseling, check out this article from BetterHelp!

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Hi! I am an artist, author, and blogger who also happens to have Asperger’s Syndrome. I have won several awards and honors for my writings and artwork. I suffer from a few severe mental illness and chronic pain conditions (Depression, Anxiety, PTSD, Fibromyalgia, CFS/ME, Ehlers Danlos, Degenerative Disc Disease, etc.), which greatly affects my life and makes me want to advocate for others going through similar things. Other interests of mine include reading, writing, drawing, watching cartoons and movies, collecting toys, hanging out with my family, and annoying my 3 cats.

17 thoughts on “My Poor Husband…”

      1. Well, feel free to use it sometime if you want! As you know, Pixabay is free use 🙂 I think I found it under the category of “love” if I remember right.


  1. I read a quote that said that people who love each other should learn to be the balm that each other most requires. Us mentally ill usually muddle through it, but sounds like your husband got it right ❤

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  2. I have many similar issues and I thank God for my husband every day. As you said- it is not easy for our husbands. My husband may not be perfect, but he is the perfect husband for me and your husband is the perfect husband for you. Sometimes we focus too much on ourselves and our mental health issues and we do not focus on our many qualities- the things that our husbands love about us. Nobody is all bad. What are your qualities?

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    1. I think the things my husband most appreciates about me are my intelligence, creativity, child-like view of the world, curiosity, and how sweet I am…at least those are the things he usually mentions 🙂 What about you?


  3. I say that about my husband, too. I feel guilty, that he didn’t sign up for this when we married almost 33 years ago. But he is always by my side. Like Walt said, that’s what people in love do. They stand by their mate. And it’s important to let them know how much it means to you. ❤

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  4. My Husband (whom I am now estranged from) suffers from Bi polar. Though that is not why we parted. Well not completely. I did my Best not just because I was in-Love with him at the time. But because I was a Caring person. And still am.

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    1. Sometimes things just don’t work out. Especially if there is abuse of any kind. If I were abusive, I would not expect my husband to take that, no matter what my diagnosis.


      1. I would have kicked his ass. But I restrained myself. Telling him I have forensic skills was a good deterrent.

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