Subconscious Sexual Abuse Dreams?

Although I was exposed to sexual content at a very young age and my parents shared WAY too much of their sex life details with me as a kid, I always considered myself lucky that at least I wasn’t touched or molested by anyone.

However, over the years (more so in the past than currently) I’ve had multiple nightmares about a couple of my relatives molesting me. I have no conscious memory of this ever happening, so if it did actually happen, it was obviously when I was too young to remember or my mind has blocked it from my memory. Either way, I’m glad of that safeguard if anything actually did happen, because I don’t think I’d want to remember it in detail.

The reason I’m sharing this today is just to ask if anyone else has ever had recurring nightmares about a relative sexually abusing them. Is this normal? Should I just shake it off as some kind of weird paranoia? There was definitely a lack of boundaries and privacy in my home growing up. Perhaps that triggers exaggerated dreams like this? I’m not sure, but I was just wondering if anyone else has ever experienced anything like this.

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34 thoughts on “Subconscious Sexual Abuse Dreams?”

      1. Thank you, Maranda! Was a great idea, indeed! Here on festive days all shops are closed. Enjoy all the chocolate, i honestly have eaten too much in the past. 😉 Have a wonderful week, and please stay save! Michael

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  1. Trauma is stored in such a dangerous space that all is unfinished and distorted

    I have not had dreams but a repressed memory broke through

    I knew it was real

    Many of my dreams were plain fantasy so I am little help there

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      1. I have no idea how or why it broke through

        I believe my meditation practice is an auger

        My childhood had a decade of intense trying to heal

        So hopefully this is the last hidden dilemma

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  2. These are to be further explored. I know I have experienced repressed visions of abuse and was able to bring these forward, heal from them and acknowledge the trauma. May you be able to make peace with this. Sending you so much love Maranda. If you ever want to talk, email me, I will listen❤

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  3. I was a victim of incest as a child/tween, and it’s all been dealt with in the years afterwards. I don’t know how to interpret your dreams. I remember a lot of my dreams, and some of them leave me uncomfortable, but never feeling harmed or in danger of being harmed. You mention that they have been recurring dreams… have the been the same dream more than once or different dreams about different people in different scenarios? The same dream repeated would make me concerned, but different dreams, especially with different people involved, would lead me to believe that your dreams are only dreams and may be exacerbated by the level of ‘information’ and ‘lack of privacy’ you had in your early years.

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  4. 💜 As a 54 year young guy with a stiff dick from Time-To-Time a Warm, Wet, Welcoming Vagina Connected to a Stable Brain is somewhat absent; kids play ‘Sex Games’, ‘Doctors and Nurses’ CHILDHOOD AND ‘GROWN UP’ SEXUAL ABUSE IS WRONG!!! EveryOne, that is ALL for NOW!!!



  5. I never had that experience thankfully but know someone who did. He was young, about eight, and I’m not going into any detail. He does remember some details and it adds to his traumatic upbringing. If memories are escaping I guess it is a way to try and get some form of closure, but it could also be false memories. Do you want to dig further? How will it affect you? We here are not important, it’s whether it’s causing you problems. Hope this makes sense?

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  6. That’s a difficult one, as boundaries within family are more flexible in the main, and there is so much fierce debate in the therapy world about repressed memory, however, I would still test that feeling with a professional.

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      1. There was a famous case here in Australia in the 90s of a woman who felt something had happened in her past and it turned out her father had abused her but that she had blocked her memory of it all to survive. She wrote a book (out of print I’d imagine) called “No Longer A Victim” which was astounding, but the psychology of blocking was even more astounding to me, but trauma is tricky. Take care.

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  7. Late to the “party” here since my back kept me out of action the last week.

    Dreams are tricky things. Usually they’re metaphorical and exaggerated to get you to listen to what your subconscious has been trying to tell you for a while. STILL, it *could* very well be repressed memories also. No denying that, and I would advise looking into it with a professional. Just make sure they’re not biased towards any given interpretation without exploring. Assuming it’s not actual abuse, something is bothering you enough that your dreams are saying you feel it’s as bad as abuse and as helpless to deal with it as if you were a child.

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      1. I learned alot from a radio show back in Sacramento where the host did dream interpretation. She said the books are all junk because everyone’s psyche and symbolism are different. Also to look at the general situation in the dream and see if there’s anything like that happening in your life. 🙂 Again, NOT discounting the possibility of repressed memories, just saying it could be other things also.

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  8. Hi, I can tell you that I had proof of my abuse as a child, from 4 years onwards, only thanks to the nightmares. It was always bad for me to have those nightmares where there was a man whose face I couldn’t see. It was the only way for my subconscious to let me know that something had really happened. I validated the proof then by doing psychotherapy for a few years. But I couldn’t be hypnotized to find out who my abuser was because I have too much inner fragility and it’s too risky, my psychologist told me. So I recommend that you talk to a psychologist and see if they are just your fantasies or not. If you have drawings you made as a child, it’s good to show them to them. I drew a lot of things at school but my teacher didn’t understand what was happening to me and neither did my parents. I am still sick and I suffer from anxiety and also health problems. I hope you can find out the whole truth and clarify your past. 🤗🤗🤗

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    1. I don’t really have any drawings from when I was really little, so I honestly have no idea what kind of stuff I created back then. I am so sorry to hear about how you have been affected by this, I truly wish stuff like this never happened to anyone.

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  9. Thanks for sharing & yes I used to have reoccurring nightmares. They didn’t stop until I shared a part of my story openly for the first time at age 37 with my second husband. Unfortunately, it was so bad over the years that I raised my children out of fear in many ways to make sure no one ever abused them-in ANY way.

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  10. Mystical theories about the probable effects of early abuse are a form of dramatic fiction, and possibly even veiled political propaganda. Note that the first quack CSA theorist – Freud – was a charlatan who made money selling “treatment” that was never proven safe or effective by medical standards.

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