I’ve had a really rough few days. Because of acting out behaviors online, my husband and I had set some boundaries for online use. He broke a couple of these boundaries a few days ago. Not a huge violation, but still not honoring the safeguards we put in place is a big deal and I have to treat it as such. So for now, he has moved to the spare bedroom. I’m very sad and I miss him. I feel like I’m suffering as much for his actions as he is.
I am proud of myself though for honoring myself enough to enforce the boundaries we had agreed upon. In the past, I never would have done so. He even said that he felt there would never actually be real consequences and he even admitted that he knew he needed them. He is attending a 12 step program and will probably be switching counselors to a specialist who deals with these kinds of issues. I am glad he is taking the initiative to help himself and try to heal our relationship as well.
I only wish it didn’t make me feel so sad and lonely too.
Healing is a slow process, it’ll take time. As long as you’re both willing to actually move forward though, you’ll get there.
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Yeah, it is rough, but as long as I can see we are both trying, it is worth working on.
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💜 Sounds like On-Track to Me EveryOne; recently I Have Been Experiencing One Heck of a Lot Of IT GETS MUCH WORSE BEFORE IT GETS BETTER!!!
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Thanks 🙂
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Sending hugs, and hope that things improve. X
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Thank you ♥
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I’m proud of you for standing up to the boundaries that were agreed upon. I know how tough that is! My hope is that, once he sees that you believe you deserve more and that there will be consequences for broken promises, he will be able to break the chain to his addictions and agree that you’re worth it. Because…. well, because you ARE!
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I’m so sorry that you are having problems, but proud of you for sticking to your guns!
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Thank you ♥♥
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